The Power of Getting Real

There's one thing about starting a business.  It's a little lonely.  Not just the lonely of working from your home and not having co-workers (unless we count Moose).  But the lonely in the decisions.  The lonely in the fact that others have lot of opinions about how you should proceed, but you have to make the best decisions one step at a time.  

It's lonely realizing you're only one person and you are plugging away at what should be done next.  It's lonely realizing that you're not as organized as you thought you were. 

But it's not just in starting a business.  It's in raising kids.  Getting married.  Switching jobs.  Navigating our own emotional health.  

Am I doing the right thing?  Did I make the right decision?  Should I have turned left when I turned right?  

I don't know about you, but I end up asking these questions to myself everyday.  I ask them about my business.  I ask them about my relationships with family and friends.  I ask them about getting to know my neighbors better.  

I hosted a group coaching session in my home the other day.  We ended our session with declarations, a tool I learned from Learning Journeys - my coaching school.  A declaration is a statement of how we want to Iive.  A declaration is a statement of how we want to show up in the world.  You write them in the present tense as if you are already living that way. 

The hard part about declarations?  Many times, we're not actually living the way we want to live.  We are not actually showing up in the world they way we wish we were.  And so while we write them as if they are already happening, they help us get real about who we want to become.  

This getting real is not for sissies.  It's for those who can be brave with where they are and where they want to be.  I encouraged the group to read them out loud.  Not to make them do something uncomfortable, although that's a part of growing too.  But because saying them out loud helps them become real in our mind.  It empowers you and I to start looking at ourselves differently and start living the way the way God wants us to live. 

I'm so proud of my group.  While I made no one say it our loud, I encouraged them that there is power in saying our declarations out loud.  One by one, they read their declarations.  There was discomfort.  There was some pain.  It was messy.  But is was real.  And much like the Velveteen Rabbit, when you and i are real and vulnerable and a little torn, we find healing, hope, and possibility. 

My declaration includes being a follower of my dreams, inspiring others to courageous faith, and being a faithful and obedient follower of God.  I wrote it months ago during a coach training class.  And while some of my declaration was who I am becoming, some are real questions I pose every day.  When I look in the mirror, I don't always see an entrepreneur/business owner.  I don't always see someone boldly pursuing her dreams.  

But I do see someone walking with God  - seeking to become those things.  And, for me, the power in my declaration is two fold.  One, it reminds me of who I want to become.  It reminds me of how I want to show up as a Christ-follower.  It also reminds me that to grow and change I need to be real.  I need to be real before God.  I need to be real before my safe community who loves and encourages me.  I need to be real when it's not pretty knowing that I'm loved not because I have it all together.  I'm loved because God loves me just where I am on this journey and He knows my heart. 

One foot faith, I am learning, requires gut-level honesty.  One foot faith trusts God with our hearts enough to be real.  It's real enough to ask for help when we need it.  Help me become who you want me to be, Lord.  One foot faith develops a community that holds our stories as sacred and allows us to be real - even when its hard.  One foot faith trusts a community that journeys with us to who we are becoming in Christ. 

I'm wondering what your declaration would be.  Who do you want to be and become?  When you look in the mirror, who do you want to see?  Better yet, who does God want you to become for Him?  Write it down.  Say it out loud.  I'm positive that the power of getting real will change your life one step at a time.