When You Need Some Clarity
I was dead tired. I had just finished leading my first life coaching retreat. Ten wonderful women had trusted me with their time, their minds, and their hearts. I had never done this kind of retreat before, you see, and truth be told, as in so many other areas of my life, I had really no idea if what I put together would work.
As my friend drove us back to the Twin Cities, I was pondering a lot. Was it good? Would I do it again? Did I enjoy it? Did the ladies enjoy it? Was God honored in the hearts and lives of these ladies?
As the three of us debriefed the retreat, the conversation turned to One Foot as a whole. There were observations on how I'm wearing a lot of hats. From life coaching Bible studies to group coaching to individual coaching to retreats. All are great activities- but what is One Foot really about? What is the key mission of One Foot?
My conclusion? I'm too tired to think about all this. Let's change the subject.
Is it just my personality - or do you struggle sometimes too? As soon as you start heading in one direction, you feel pulled in another. You are excited about this direction and yet this other idea comes up that intrigues you. Can't you just do a little bit of everything?
The answer is you can, but sometimes I wonder if I'm missing God's best for me because I'm spread too thin. If I would just "declare a major" when it comes to my business, would it bring clarity and peace when I feel pulled apart.
Your question may not necessarily be running a small business. It could be your next step at work. Or where to volunteer (inside or outside of the church). Or finding clarity on what you're really good at. Or everyday tasks that need your attention.
How do you and I design an intentional life full of clarity, confident next steps, and contentment in the journey?
On the retreat this weekend, one of our sessions was on developing a life plan. I'm not talking about planning out each 30 minute segment of your day, but getting serious about living your priorities, getting specific on the legacy you want to leave, and finding clarity on some next steps in your life.
As I lead through the coaching session, I realized that the principles in the life plan were simple. But so few of us, myself included, press pause long enough to think these things through. And when it comes down to it, finding clarity is as simple as answers a few questions.
How Do You Want To Be Remembered?
Before we can get clear on the life we want to live, we need to do some heavy lifting. Answering the question of where we want to end up will be the catalyst for creating a life you love and can be proud of.
Figuring out how you want to be remembered with help you develop your thoughts on your personal legacy. What are you planning on leaving behind when you are gone? How will you have touched your world and the people in it? How do we live a life that God can say, "Well done, good & faithful servant."
In the book, Living Forward, authors Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy, recommend writing your own eulogy. I tried this. I'm not gonna lie. It was a little awkward. But the one thing they recommend is thinking of the important people in your life in categories. You know, spouse, kids, extended family, friend, neighbors, co-workers. You get the drift. And then, think about the impact you hope you are now having and want to have on them in the future. These things are the legacy you want to leave.
Discovering how you want to be remembered can help you make decisions today that will impact your future and eternity.
What Matters Most?
I don't know about you, but I don't think about my priorities on a daily basis. While I value some great things, most of my days are driven by to-do lists (whether written or in my head), meetings and appointments that have already been scheduled, phone calls and e-mails that beg for my attention, and my level of tiredness when I finally sit in a chair that doesn't pull up to my desk at the end of the day. How about you?
Let's face it, we all face a little drift when it comes to our priorities. Drift can be caused by busyness, feeling overwhelmed, or exhaustion and is really this idea that life is just happening as it unfolds.
Don't get me wrong - embracing the life God is blessing you with is a good thing. Yet pressing pause to remind ourselves of what our priorities are can help us live the life that God designed us to live.
Personally, I've found when I take the time to evaluate what matters most, I find clarity for my next steps and peace for my current situation.
What Can You Change?
Once we've evaluated the legacy we want to leave and what matters most, it's time to start getting a little personal. How do you and I do something about it? After all, it's one thing to be aware of the legacy we want to leave and the priorities we want to live by, but how do we make the change to stop drifting and living intentionally?
You are not gonna like this next part. I don't really like it either. The secret to living out your priorities is identifying the next steps we need to take and then commit to the change.
I know, I know. No one asked me about it either. If they had asked me, I would told them to leave out the commitment part too. For clarity to become reality, you and I need to identify our current realities and our future commitments. It's that simple.
You know what the problem is? This stuff takes time. Evaluating the legacy you want to leave. Identifying your priorities. And coming up with a plan to live it out. These things take time and soul searching. These types of things are not completed in the time you're sitting in the drive-thru line at Starbucks or your trip to the grocery store. They take the time you need to reconnect with your heart and the heart of God. They take the work. They take you taking care of you.
After all that, you may be wondering what I decided about One Foot Coaching? What hat do I want to major in? I'm taking my time. I haven't discovered anything earth shattering yet. But I know that the answer lies in the impact God wants to have through One Foot, the priorities He has set for me and my business, and the commitments I'm willing to make to get there.
What helps you find clarity when all ideas seem like good ideas? I'd love to hear back from you even if its to commiserate that every idea is a good idea! Thanks for reading.