Three Life Coaching Lessons

So, for the very first time I caucused this Super Tuesday...

I'm not sure caucus is a verb, but I'm making it one. 

You see, I grew into an adult in a place that didn't caucus.  There were always polling places - primary or not.  We voted on our own schedule - behind curtained voting booths. 

With some giddiness, I prepared to attend my first caucus.  And then, I arrived. 

For those of you who had never caucused like myself, there's a whole process to it.  First you go to your assigned place, you register, and then are assigned a room to gather with your precinct.  Before voting on these little paper ballots, random people are given the opportunity to say something on behalf of their candidate. 

This could go on and on if other people wanted to say something about their candidate back. 

In my precinct, the "we have to go to work tomorrow" group won the day. 

Then you vote. And then there's a bunch of other stuff.  Delegates. Volunteering for the party. 

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And as I sat in my junior high school desk waiting for precinct 13's festivities to begin, I realized you can learn alot about life from your caucus. 

So, in the interest of getting to the point, here are my 3 life coaching lessons I took away from my caucus experience. 

1. You Show Up For What You Care About

As I approached my caucus site, there were lines of cars from every direction waiting to get in.  Parking was full.  People were walking from other parking lots down the street. The line to register for the caucus was out the door.  It was crazy. 

People showed up because they cared.  Now they may have cared about their opportunity to vote, or their specific candidate, or making sure certain candidates didn't make it.  But they cared enough to show up.

It's a lot like life.  We show up for what we care about.  When you think of your everyday life, what gets done?  What would you rearrange your schedule for?  

My guess is that the things we truly care about are the things we put the most effort into.  The things we truly care about are the things we are most willing to work on.  The things we truly care about are the things we would rearrange our schedule for. 

In life coaching, we coach our clients to pay attention to what has heart and meaning in their lives.  And when you do, you can choose to show up.

What will you choose to show up for in the coming weeks?  Months?  Year? 

2. We Live Our Intentions

As voters, we were all prepared.  People stood up and gave speeches, for goodness sake.  People knew what each candidate believed in and knew which one aligned with their belief system.  

They voted with their beliefs and intentions. 

To be honest, I felt a little unprepared as I arrived.  I didn't know a ton about the candidates.  I had to do some research.  And quite frankly, figure out who aligned with me closest.  And while I voted, I'm still not sure where exactly I stand. 

Whether it's at the polling place or in our every day life,  I believe that we must live what we believe.  We must choose to live out our values and convictions.  Precint 13 was full of conviction last night.  People who went to bat for their candidate. 

When you think about your life,  what do you want to live out?  If you were to create an intention or way you wanted to show up right now, what would that be?  What are the non-negotiables for you in your life going forward?

3. Trust The Process

As Americans, we trust the process.  We caucus.  We exercise our right to vote (all dedicated to my dad who taught me to value the Constitution and my right to vote). But in the end, we need to trust the process until a candidate is named. 

In coaching, like voting, we need to trust the process.  Whether it's a coaching tool or a conversation around your intention, all coaches will encourage you to trust the process. 

Why?  Because while it seems like a hot mess right now, breakthrough can come right around the corner.  How do you get there?  By doing the next thing in front of you. 

During my life coaching certification training, we were asked to participate countless tools.  Some included drawing.  Some included doing uncomfortable things like ripping up my drawing after I worked so hard on it.  

But every time I engaged, God spoke to me.  Every time I was all in, there was a nugget of truth for me waiting.  Every time I trusted the process, I was changed. 

I don't know about you, but some small part of my enjoyed my first caucus.  There were crowds.  There was some lively debate.  But mostly, it was seeing the process at work.  The process of democracy.  And a reminder, that if I care enough about caucusing to rearrange my schedule, I can focus on those other things that matter.  And of course, trust the process. 

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